Dress for Success

Appearance is the key factor in attracting others to you. Shallow, but true. The first impression anyone will ever make about you is based upon your appearance, and your appearance is determined in large by the type of clothing that you wear. Your clothing should give the impression both of who you are and who you want to be.

The most important part of using your appearance to create a positive first impression is to appear clean and neat. No one is attracted to a slob; a lack of attention to self is often indicative to a general apathy with regards to other people and life in general. In addition, keep in mind that members of the opposite sex are most attracted to the individuals that they believe to be at the top of the metaphorical food chain. Needless to say, no one is going to believe that you are at the top of the food chain if you look like you cannot get yourself dressed without your mother’s assistance. Your clothes should be clean, neat and properly fit in order to present the image of yourself as someone who cares about themselves and their belongings-and by default, the people that are around them (after all, you can care about yourself and not care about those around you, but it is very rare to care about those around you and not care a bit about yourself.)

This should by no means be taken to mean that you have to spend a small fortune on a wardrobe or take three hours getting dressed in the morning in order to ensure that you have the appearance of a runway model every time that you leave your home. That is impractical and does not allow the essence of your own personality to shine through. It is possible to attract the attention of the opposite sex in comfortable clothes, and for most people jeans and sweatshirts are much more comfortable for daily wear than their dress clothes. It is merely important to assure that these clothes do not make you appear to care more about comfort than you do about how you look.

If you are unsure about how to take your own taste in clothes and use it to maximize your appearance there are a wide assortment of resources at your disposal. Sales clerks, particularly of retail establishments that only deal in clothing, are trained to have a good eye for the size, color and style that will do the most to enhance their customer’s appearance. Most people do not truly know what looks good on them, and what seems appealing in the store dressing room often loses its appeal when it is placed in ordinary circumstances. If a customer is not happy with the way that their clothing makes them appear they are likely to blame the store (after all, it could not possibly their own fault) which will cost the store business. On the other hand, if the sales clerk is able to steer a customer towards the perfect ensemble they will bring their business back.

There is never a second chance to make a first impression, and if that first impression is a negative one you are likely to have a great deal of difficulty in convincing the object of your affection to reconsider; therefore, the best thing you can do is make sure that you have taken all possible measures to ensure that you place your best foot forward when stepping into the dating pool.

If the Law of Attraction works, you will surely be grateful for all that you receive as a result of practicing it. Life will be easier and more abundant. However, you actually need to start out with a feeling of gratitude before you can expect good things to come. This is what the Law of Attraction is about. When you believe fantastic things are already happening for you, you will be grateful. According to the Law of Attraction, it is important to believe. Furthermore, being grateful for something you believe is happening sends out positive vibrations into the universe. This brings the good things to you by way of the Law of Attraction.

Without even thinking of the future, you can use the Law of Attraction to draw the positive things to you. If you are thankful for the things in your life, you will be focused in on the good energy inherent in your grateful mind. The Law of Attraction is evident in the way being grateful brings you more to be grateful for. Think of the way things snowball, both the good and the bad. You might wake up in a bad mood because you resent a noisy neighbor for keeping you up late. If you let that bad mood win out, more negative things will continue to happen to you all day long. When you consider the Law of Attraction, you will see why this happens.

If, however, you brush off the bad feelings and replace them with gratitude you will be surprised at how much better your day will go. Use the Law of Attraction to help you along. You may be thankful that you woke up beside your loving spouse, or you might be grateful that you have a job to go to. Whatever it is, the Law of Attraction will make it work for you.

So, the Law of Attraction works on a system of gratitude and reward. You need a way to remind yourself to always be grateful for the good things in your life. Some people set aside a certain time each day to list the things they’re thankful for. They might compile them in a journal and look over them all from time to time.

The Law of Attraction is built on good habits. You can carry some sort of talisman. It can be anything from a rock to a coin. It can be anything you will handle daily. Some people put these items in their pockets. Some put them on a string around their necks. The idea is that every time you touch it, you feel gratitude. If at all possible, you express that gratitude to others. Your mind will become geared towards thinking in terms of what you are thankful for. This will allow the Law of Attraction to do its work.

Your mind controls who and what you are. According to the Law of Attraction, it can also change what you have. This may be material possessions, relationships, or health. If you are in a mindset of gratitude, you are in a position to make the Law of Attraction bring to you all that you desire.

How to Compete with the Alpha Male

Throughout nature the female of the species is attracted to the alpha male in the hope that she will be able to bear his offspring-offspring that have the best chance of survival in the cruel world they are going to be brought up in. These females are not looking for a meaningful, long term relationship; a quick interlude, then the privilege of gestation. A fortunate fact, since the alpha male often has a harem and while he protects all of them he does not give any of them his undivided attention.

All of these philosophies hold true to the human alpha male as well. While he is fiercely loyal to the people he defends and will go out of his way not to hurt them neither will he be able to give any of them his heart or the promise of a future. The woman that can pin down the alpha male is a rare specimen indeed. In the meantime, there are many other fish in the sea who are looking for something more than the alpha male has to offer, and it is this population that holds the key to defeating the alpha male’s hold on the female of their choice.

A non-alpha male looking for a relationship needs to go into the situation with his eyes wide open; he is going to need to be looking for a permanent relationship but not be expecting one (proposing on the second date is out, regardless of how long you have been dreaming about a woman). The woman who has opted to explore her possibilities other than the alpha male is going to go into the situation cautiously, with an eye towards what the man in question has to offer. This man is going to need to be able to provide her with a secure financial future (if he is in early twenties this can be supplemented with the pursuit of a college education and a realistic ten year plan) as well as give her the emotional security she was lacking with the alpha. If a man is not an alpha male and does not feel that he is in a position to give a great deal of himself to a woman he should not place himself in a situation where that is going to matter (i.e. an actual date). He is going to need to keep it light and friendly to avoid gaining a poor reputation among the females of his acquaintance.

The emotional requirements seen to, let us turn our attention to capturing the eye of a woman. If you are not an alpha male you are not going to have the advantage going into the fight that you would have otherwise, but you are not entirely without resources. Women are attracted to competence. If you can arrange a situation where she can see you doing what you do best (whatever that is) you are going to want to take advantage of this. If you are not in a position where you can establish such a situation (such as approaching a woman in a bar) remember that women love confidence as well.

Don’t:

- Stutter
- Drool
- Spill your drink
- Say anything resembling a come-on line

Do:

- Smile (naturally)
- Talk in a normal tone of voice
- Look her in the eye
- Start a conversation. If you have trouble with this one pick any topic related to the situation in which you currently find yourself (the environment, not the part where you are trying to get her attention)
- Walk her to her car at the end of the night
- Get her phone number
- Call her!

If you carefully adhere to these guidelines and allow a relationship to grow between the two of you based on common interest and respect it won’t be long before she’ll be able to look at you and say, “Alpha who?”